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3 Ways Strong Women Ruin a Relationship

3 Ways Strong Women Ruin a Relationship

Rori Raye | Divine Caroline

June 17, 2010

By Trying to Manage Your Relationship

Being a woman means taking charge of your own life, but letting him run the relationship.

If that sounds odd and unfair and plainly not at all about female empowerment. But here’s a new way to look at this: Love isn’t a management opportunity. When a man pulls away from us, going after him and trying to “talk it out” to get him back full-force again is the kiss of death for your relationship, not the spark that will re-ignite it.

Save management for your life outside your relationship with a man—your time, your money, your work, your environment. A man is not a chair. You can’t move him around and decorate him and sit on him and make opinions about him and tell him where to stand and expect him to feel anything but friendship or obligation toward you. That means don’t tell him what he should wear, don’t give him advice on his career, and don’t tell him what he should think about a certain topic.

To love, a man needs to be swimming in a sea of emotion; your emotion, shared willingly and openly. Your feelings are your compass, not your abilities. Your feelings are the most important part of you, the irresistible feminine part of you. Your feelings are what make you loveable and compellingly attractive to a man, especially if you speak about the way you feel and not about what you think.

So, the next time you’re tempted to manage and arrange things—stop yourself. Look inside your heart and body to find and share what you feel instead. Learn how to express yourself to draw him closer.

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