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3 Ways Strong Women Ruin a Relationship

3 Ways Strong Women Ruin a Relationship

Rori Raye | Divine Caroline

June 17, 2010

By Doing Too Much

One drawback to being an accomplished, smart woman is that you know how to get a whole lot done. Often all at the same time. It’s just easier sometimes to do it yourself than to wait for him to do it. It’s easier to call him and ask him out and get the movie tickets online and make the plans—all so you don’t have to experience the frustration of watching him do a job that’s less well done than how you’d do it.

The cure for this is to learn to be surprised by a man, and not work so hard to make things happen. A woman who’s busy rowing the “rowboat of love” leaves a man with nothing to do. He either sits back and enjoys the ride, or he does what we tell him to do—and I’ve never met a woman who thought either of those were attractive in a man.

So the next time you’re tempted to pick up those oars and do the work of the relationship—stop yourself. Instead—lean back in that “rowboat of love” and let him row. He will thrive, trust me. Let him decide to row and take the boat where he wants it to go. It’s always your choice to leave if you don’t like where things are going (or not going), but picking up those oars will only sink the boat, and leave you nothing to manage.

I’ve always been a woman who instinctively wants to take charge, and the way I was using those real, genuine strengths was killing my relationships with the men I loved. Over time, I learned how to harness my masculine, take-charge energy to become successful in my work, while basically giving up controlling a man in any way. This is what turned everything around for me nearly overnight. Keep reading to learn how you can do it too.

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