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The Boss that is not cordial
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Posted 2 months ago How do you deal with a moodie boss who do not have manners when he enters the office to say good morning/afternoon..seems like everyday is a bad for this person? |
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| Posted 2 months ago You have to feel sorry for him. He must have a miserable life and works in a job he doesn't enjoy. Don't let his bad mood get you down. Say good morning/afternoon with a smile and don't take it personally that he won't answer back. If you are his admin assistant go to him and confidence and say that you heard someone in the company say that you don't seem happy in your job. Ask if everything is okay because, of course, you are watching his back and you are concerned that you will still be able to work for him (lol). If he thinks others, higher than him, are aware of his moods maybe he will change his attitude. It's a bit sneaky but you don't want to start dread going into work just because he is moody. |
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| Posted 2 months ago My boss can be the same way. Although, I would not say that his life is miserable or that he hates his job. He can get so caught up in what's going on that it is all he can focus on. This job is his life 24/7. I don't take it personally when he doesn't say hi to me or acknowledge my existence right away. I know he's busy and focused. Regardless of the reason for his behavior, don't take it personally. |
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| Posted 2 months ago Yup, don't take it personally. One of my bosses is moody - can be the nicest of people, and then 10 minutes later, watch out. He does say hi when he passes by, but it's not a big deal if he doesn't. I wouldn't bother asking him what's wrong or anything - I don't want to get my head bitten off! |
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| Posted 2 months ago I agree that taking it personally can be a problem, but does anyone have any tips for someone who tends to take things personally? Follow AdminSecret on Facebook! |
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| Posted 2 months ago Sometimes with coworkers/supervisors you have to take the same approach you would take with children. Separate the behavior from the child. If you find yourself taking things personally, try to picture the person in a non-work role (parent, church member, PTA member, etc). This can help you see the person as separate from the behavior that has upset you. Then if you want to address the situation, you can speak objectively about the behavior and why it upset you without putting the person on the defensive. Of course, this only works if you are taking the behavior personally and not projecting a dislike or disrespect for the person in general. Also, if you know that you must deliver negative or unwanted news to a coworker who tends to take things personally, make sure you are separating the behavior from yourself. If a task must be completed, explain why and focus on the task without being demanding as an individual. Keep your delivery neutral and objective. If you must correct behavior, then focus on positive alternatives and not on degrading or embarrassing the individual. If the situation is generic (not saying good morning), say it to yourself. You deserve the wishes for a good day. I always say good morning to the people I pass, and if they don't respond, I whisper a good morning to myself. I deserve to be in a good mood, even if the folks around me choose not to be. And yes, being in a good mood is a CHOICE not a predetermined reaction to events around us. You choose your attitude and your mood over and over again every day. |
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| Posted 2 months ago I have been in this same position.working with so many not so cordial bosses. I used to get upset when they didn't tell me good job, good morning, or even I am leaving for the day. I wondered what I did to warrent that type of behaviour. I realized that it was not me that they just didn't have the social graces So, I will give the same advice that I was given toughen up, you are paid to be an assistant and sometimes that means working with someone who is not nice, your reward comes when you get paid, weekly, monthly or bi weekly. Don't take it to heart just understand that sometimes there are people out there who have not been taught social manners by their parents, I have often found those who act in the fashion your boss does feel some form of entitlement. I no longer take things personally and havent for the past 10 years, it leads to a much happier self and family since I don't carry it home with me. I do have to say... make your own mood, don't let anyone dictate how you feel, own your feelings and don't give them away to those who don't appreciate it.... throwing pearls before swine. I do have some tips for not taking it personally.... first, you can't control the enviroment of those who surround you, you can only control what is yours to own. Secondly... why do you really care? Is this someone you would have to your house for dinner? If not, treat them as you would any stranger on the street. For example, sometimes you are walking into a store and you are smiling because your favorite brand of perfume is on sale with a gift with purchase. You see someone and smile and they don't bother to smile back, is that really going to change your out look on your gift with purchase, no most likely not you are still going to be happy Toughen up, don't take it personally and know that you are most likely a far better person than he or she is. Chin up Suge....
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| Posted 27 days ago How do you deal with a boss who's not only moody, but crazy. I swear she must be bi-polar. She will fly off the handle at the smallest thing - and everything in the world is the biggest tragedy. she has not perception of personal boundaires. If someone has food out on the desk such as granola, chips or cookies - she will walk right up reach her hand in the bag and help herself. She can curse a blue streak and is computer illeterate. It's not like she has been here 35 years and is a part of the woodwork - she was hired in July of 2009 I belive because of her "Dynamic" personality to raise the profile of the organization in the area but I belive she will raise awareness for all the wrong reasons. Any ideas on how to cope? |
